I can keep it simple or make it complicated. Let’s assume that so many have answered this question already so I will keep it short and sweet.
LEARN to love you, yourself, first. Get rid of your stupid insecurities and focus on your amazing inner beauty. Don’ t let any guy/girl take away your confidence or tell you who you are/should be/should do! The sooner you learn your self-worth, the happier your life will be.
If you don’t believe that love is an inside job, look at the divorce rate. If we knew how to love ourselves, we wouldn’t get into some of the stupid relationships we choose when we’re young. And for some of us, we continue with the age-old definition of insanity: repeating the same action over and over again and expecting a different result.
The more confidence and self-love you have, the more likely you are to choose or be chosen by a man/woman who has the same thing going on. Likes attract.
If you spend your life looking for your soulmate you miss the opportunity to really connect with the soul-mate-that is-you!
I want you to remember these words forever: you should be your first and last love. You are the only one that can truly keep you safe and warm at night. LOVE yourself first.
And pick up a copy of LOVE The Beat Goes On, “When your doctors give you six months do live, what do you do?” Lynda Filler’s memoir on healing.