What can older women say to younger women to help them mature faster?

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Thanks Pixabay!

I can keep it simple or make it complicated. Let’s assume that so many have answered this question already so I will keep it short and sweet.

LEARN to love you, yourself, first. Get rid of your stupid insecurities and focus on your amazing inner beauty. Don’ t let any guy/girl take away your confidence or tell you who you are/should be/should do! The sooner you learn your self-worth, the happier your life will be.

If you don’t believe that love is an inside job, look at the divorce rate. If we knew how to love ourselves, we wouldn’t get into some of the stupid relationships we choose when we’re young. And for some of us, we continue with the age-old definition of insanity: repeating the same action over and over again and expecting a different result.

The more confidence and self-love you have, the more likely you are to choose or be chosen by a man/woman who has the same thing going on. Likes attract.

If you spend your life looking for your soulmate you miss the opportunity to really connect with the soul-mate-that is-you!

I want you to remember these words forever: you should be your first and last love. You are the only one that can truly keep you safe and warm at night. LOVE yourself first.

 

as answered by Lynda Filler on Quora

And pick up a copy of LOVE The Beat Goes On, “When your doctors give you six months do live, what do you do?”  Lynda Filler’s memoir on healing.

 

 

Heaven!

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I love my Kindle app on my iPad Mini, but… there’s nothing like holding a brand new book or your favorite classic, in your hands. The big challenge is always: where do I put my books?

Here are some cool ideas I found online to get your creative juices going. Enjoy!

What do you do with the old CD rack?

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Or how can we encourage our kids to read more? How about books shelves like these:

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We all love letters… we could do something with our favorite word. Mine is #LOVE

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Or our favorite musical instrument:

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A cool shape perhaps…

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or an old classic–wall to wall shelves interspersed with cool objects.

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Maybe one of these will inspire you to clean up those books that I know you have stacked on the floor by your bed!

Gotcha!   Thanks, Pinterest!

And while you’re at it, you might want to pick up my latest. I received this yesterday! There’s nothing like the feel of my own books! Thanks for being in my world and feel free to share these fun bookshelf ideas!

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Memoir: Put a knife in your heart and just bleed.

Memoirs are easy. You sit in front of your computer for what might be years, put a knife in your heart, and bleed.

This week I received two editorial 5 Star reviews and four 4 Stars. Reviews are important, yet not really in the grand scheme of life. Would I stop writing if a review was bad? Would I put away my current WIP Sex For Money, and never pick it up again if someone said my work was not worth reading?

No. I would keep on writing because a writer writes.

On the other hand, what do you do when your family is upset with what you’ve written?

It’s easy to hide behind your characters in fiction but memoir is like going to confession with the doors to the confessional wide open and a microphone blasting your words to the entire congregation.

Yes, you will have family members angry with you for saying things they feel are private. But you can’t tell the story of your life while your family and/or ex-husbands are reading over your shoulder expecting to be allowed to give their stamp of approval on every sentence.

So as a writer I wait for the reviewers and my readers, who, for the most part, are voyeurs and as such, I can expect a less emotional, more impartial opinion of the words that make up my life.

And this is some of what they’ve shared with me this week.

“Powerful and unforgettable”
“Invaluable for anyone confronted by physical conditions or illness … her story is truly inspirational, LOVE The Beat Goes On is most highly recommended.”  
Reviewed by Jack Magnus for Readers’ Favorite 5 STARS

An introspective read” “Quick, relatable…giving us a glimpse into the journey of a remarkable woman.”  
Reviewed by Kayti Nika Raet for Readers’ Favorite  5 STARs

“It isn’t a medical professional book saying ‘do this, do that’ – it’s a living, breathing survivor stating, ‘look, this is what worked for me.’…learning to trust her own intuition to purification, letting go, and not being afraid to keep fighting; after all, as she herself reinforces, ‘You’re not dead yet.”      
Reviewed by K. J. Simill,  4 Stars Readers’ Favorite

“Her story is honest, straightforward, and powerful, and many readers will be able to connect well with her experiences and how her spirit came to believe that sometimes the impossible can be made possible with the way we think.”
Reviewed by Mamta Madhavan 4 Stars Readers’ Favorite

“Lynda’s focus on the emotional side of the battle against any disease is a very vital one, if you are not in the right state of mind, the doctors’ efforts to save you might all be in vain. Her emphasis on the need to always listen to your body and not ignore any warning signs made this a compelling read.”
Reviewed by Faridah Nassozi  4 Stars Readers’ Favorite

Mea culpa to anyone I may have offended in the writing of my personal story. I hope one day you will understand I wrote what was in my heart with love and gratitude for the life I’ve been blessed to live.

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Wow! A Must Read Book 5 Stars +

Amazon, there should be a button for 5 STARS +
It’s impossible to explain why this book is so well done. You must read it.
I live with a very positive viewpoint and don’t like to relive the past. But if we are going to heal, and help others know they are not alone, we must write our stories. I read this book on a flight from Paris to Mexico City. It was rather embarassing to keep wiping my eyes for most of the book.
Thank you Gwendolyn M. Plano. I know it’s difficult to write such personal things. But as I said when I wrote my story, if we can help even one person then it’s very worthy.
If I could give more stars, I would.
Yes, it’s a story of abuse…but it’s a story of our “collective abuse” and a must read by everyone.
Letting Go Into Perfect Love: Discovering the Extraordinary after abuse.
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My linking isn’t working this morning… It must be my jet-lagged-mind!