What can older women say to younger women to help them mature faster?

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I can keep it simple or make it complicated. Let’s assume that so many have answered this question already so I will keep it short and sweet.

LEARN to love you, yourself, first. Get rid of your stupid insecurities and focus on your amazing inner beauty. Don’ t let any guy/girl take away your confidence or tell you who you are/should be/should do! The sooner you learn your self-worth, the happier your life will be.

If you don’t believe that love is an inside job, look at the divorce rate. If we knew how to love ourselves, we wouldn’t get into some of the stupid relationships we choose when we’re young. And for some of us, we continue with the age-old definition of insanity: repeating the same action over and over again and expecting a different result.

The more confidence and self-love you have, the more likely you are to choose or be chosen by a man/woman who has the same thing going on. Likes attract.

If you spend your life looking for your soulmate you miss the opportunity to really connect with the soul-mate-that is-you!

I want you to remember these words forever: you should be your first and last love. You are the only one that can truly keep you safe and warm at night. LOVE yourself first.

 

as answered by Lynda Filler on Quora

And pick up a copy of LOVE The Beat Goes On, “When your doctors give you six months do live, what do you do?”  Lynda Filler’s memoir on healing.

 

 

The Founders Of The World’s Five Largest Companies All Follow The 5-Hour Rule

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Bill Gates. Steve Jobs. Warren Buffett. Jeff Bezos. Larry Page. They are all polymaths too.

by Michael Simmons, Serial Entrepreneur, Bestselling Author, Contributor To Fortune, Forbes, HBR, Time, & Many More

(reblog from Thrive Global)

The founders of the five largest companies in the world — Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Warren Buffett, Larry Page, and Jeff Bezos — all share two uncommon traits. After studying self-made billionaires for many years now, I believe that these two traits are responsible for a lot of their wealth, success, impact, and fame. In fact, I put so much faith in these two traits that I’ve used them in my own life to start companies, be a better writer, be a better husband, and achieve financial security.

Here are the two traits:

  1. Each of them is a voracious learner.
  2. Each of them is a polymath.

Let’s unpack these two terms, and learn a few simple tips for using them in your own life.

First, the definitions. I define a voracious learner as someone who follows the 5-hour rule — dedicating at least five hours per week to deliberate learning. I define a polymath as someone who becomes competent in at least three diverse domains and integrates them into a skill set that puts them in the top 1% of their field. If you model these two traits and you take them seriously, I believe they can have a huge impact on your life and really accelerate your success toward your goals. When you become a voracious learner, you compound the value of everything you’ve learned in the past. When you become a polymath, you develop the ability to combine skills, and you develop a unique skill set, which helps you develop a competitive advantage.

By Bill Gates’ own estimate, he’s read one book a week for 52 years, many of them having nothing to do with software or business. He also has taken an annual two-week reading vacation for his entire career. In a fascinating 1994 Playboy interview, we see that he already thought of himself as a polymath:

PLAYBOY: Do you dislike being called a businessman?

GATES: Yeah. Of my mental cycles, I devote maybe ten percent to business thinking. Business isn’t that complicated. I wouldn’t want to put it on my business card.

PLAYBOY: What, then?

GATES: Scientist. Unless I’ve been fooling myself. When I read about great scientists like, say, Crick and Watson and how they discovered DNA, I get a lot of pleasure. Stories of business success don’t interest me in the same way.

The fact that Gates considers himself a scientist is fascinating given that he dropped out of college and had spent his whole life in the software industry at that point.

Interestingly, Elon Musk doesn’t consider himself a businessman either. In this recent CBS interview, Musk says he thinks of himself as more of a designer, engineer, technologist, and even wizard.

The list goes on. Larry Page has been known to spend time talking in depth with everyone from Google janitors to nuclear fusion scientists, always on the lookout for what he can learn from them.

Warren Buffett has pinpointed the key to his success this way: “Read 500 pages every day. That’s how knowledge works. It builds up, like compound interest.”

Jeff Bezos has built his whole company around learning on a massive scale via experimentation and has also been an avid reader his whole life.

Finally, Steve Jobs famously combined various disciplines and looked at it as Apple’s competitive advantage, going so far as to say:

“Technology alone is not enough. It’s technology married with the liberal arts, married with the humanities, that yields the results that makes our hearts sing.”

And, of course, the founders of these five companies aren’t the only massively successful individuals who share these two traits. As I’ve written about before, if we expanded the list to a sample of other self-made billionaires, we quickly see Oprah Winfrey, Ray Dalio, David Rubenstein, Phil Knight, Howard Marks, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Charles Koch, and many others share similar habits.

Why would some of the busiest people in the world invest their most precious resource — time — into learning about topics seemingly unconnected to their fields, like fusion power, font design, biographies of scientists, and doctors’ memoirs?

Each of them commands organizations of thousands of the smartest people in the world. They’ve delegated almost every task in their lives and businesses to the best and brightest. So why have they held on to this intense amount of learning?

After writing several articles attempting to answer these questions, this is what I’ve ultimately come to:

At the highest levels, learning isn’t something you do to prepare for your work. Learning is the most important work. It is the core competency to build. It’s the thing you never delegate. And it’s one of the ultimate drivers of long-term performance and success.

As I came to this realization, I wondered: Why isn’t it obvious that we should all become voracious learners and polymaths throughout our whole lives given that we live in an increasingly complex, rapidly changing, advanced-knowledge economy? Why does the average person think of deliberate learning as an optional thing to do on the side?

I think it’s because of three strong messages we’ve all been taught — in school, in college, and in general society — that may have been true in the past but are definitely no longer true. Here’s how these three lies break down:

  • Lie #1: Disciplines are the best way to categorize knowledge.
  • Lie #2: Most learning happens in school/college.
  • Lie #3: You must pick one field and specialize in it.

These beliefs are so insidious that they’ve destroyed our intuition about learning and knowledge, and they ultimately hold us back from creating the success we want. If we can become aware of them, we can rectify them, just as the most successful people in the world have done.

To continue with this insightful article please go to THRIVE GLOBAL (Arianna Huffington founder of  HuffPost) for more!

 

Is it love, or lust?

You decide.

Here’s what the readers have to say:

“Target in the Sun” is a compelling story of an unlikely couple and how their fate influenced the fates of those around them. First of all, kudos to the author for telling this story from different perspectives, which allow the reader to better associate and sympathize with the characters, Carlos, Mia, and Lucia.
The idea of telling each personal story in the form of journal entries and emails works really well in this sense, and I personally loved reading the “firsthand account” of Carlos growing up in a Mexican village with drug cartels, murders, corruption and poverty being a typical lifestyle. Certain aspects of Carlos’s experiences, such as loss of his parents at an early age, becoming a drug mule for his family and witnessing the appalling conditions in which children have to grow in his country, were difficult to read, but that’s because they’re so real and need to be talked about.
Also, what I really appreciated was that Carlos didn’t allow his soul to harden despite all, and remained a kind-hearted young man who only craved love and companionship, which he was lucky to find in Mia. I won’t give away the plot, but trust me, it’s a great and very important read.” Amazon Customer

“I was taken away with all the pain and suffering that little Carlos endured throughout this tragic story. When he met Mia I hoped for a breath of fresh air for him. And although she was there was so much more to the story. An unorthodox love tale, a riveting reeling lifestyle. They say that as we live we are responsible for the choices we make, but clearly, there are some things that are out of our hands. Sometimes we are blessed with the people that come into our lives and sometimes we are cursed with the families we are born into.

The Author took it to another level, I was not accustomed to the way she wrote, in the diary style. But as I read, I could not tear myself away from the story. I have so many unanswered questions and I know that I will get them in the next book, I can’t wait to see what else comes out from this story.

This reader will continue on to find the answers…..” M. S.

 

TARGET in the Sun, Best in Contemporary Fiction BTRC 2017. on sale Amazon $.99 cents!

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Who is Luke Raven?
Where did the world’s most elusive billionaire come from? 

Luke stalked his prey in the wilds of New Mexico from the time he was seven. His mother was proud to call him a Wolfer.
By the age of eleven, he was classified a science and mathematics genius, one the US Government would stop at nothing to control. When JET, the lethal ex-Mossad assassin needs help, Raven comes to the rescue.

Meet the patriot LUKE RAVEN behind Lynda Filler’s JET for Kindle Worlds for AMAZON fan-fiction series by  Russell Blake. In 2015 Russell Blake decided to share with a group of author friends and fans and allowed those writers to build a world around his NYT and USA Today bestselling character JET.

We rescued JET and her three-year-old daughter Hannah, escaping from the drug cartels in South America, brought them by mini-submarine to the southern coast of Puerto Vallarta. From there Jet met up with the Raven Group in Washington State and went off to save the USA from a cyber attack and the selling of private top secret information to vying evil zealots around the world. Non-stop action, high tension, open seas, high-speed chases…and the odd sex scene because it’s my story! I thought I’d write one novella and that would be the end of it. But I’d fallen in love with JET and the common refrains from fans were “It’s too short! We want more.” and “When is next one coming out?”

The main character in my novellas is Luke Raven and The Raven Group. With so many questions coming to me on FaceBook, I decided it was time to write a prequel and I’m giving it away FREE!

How much of LUKE RAVEN is based on fact? 

There could probably be several people who might fit into the above character. Possibly I have constructed him from my imagination. Or more than likely, use your imagination and assume I’ve taken poetic license with many details to protect those involved. I also put a disclaimer on the front of each novella because each story is a figment of my imagination… with worldwide global challenges at the center of each plot. But as the author of five JET stories for Kindle Worlds, I thought it was about time you learned more about the man who started the Raven Group. He’s known in many clandestine circles as Code Patriot.
This is where it all began. 

Download CODE PATRIOT free by signing on to my website here or newsletter. You will not be disappointed.

And to answer the next question, yes, I’m working on Novella #6. I will have it out for summer reading!

CODE PATRIOT

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts so enjoy this story and come over to FaceBook and join the fun!

 

THE JET SERIES FOR KINDLE WORLDS 

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Get ready for some crazy…

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I think all authors go through self-doubt. When TARGET in the SUN won Best in Contemporary Fiction 2017 BTRC, I began to slowly let the insecurities go. But then along came Lie To Me an exposé on sex for money and again I had moments when I questioned the marketability of a book written about sex purchased by women!  I asked my editor to read it first and tell me what she thought. She sent me an email telling me she was half-way through the editing process and the book was Hot! Hot! Hot! And thanks to the readers and reviewers my latest novel has become a 5-star read.

Layla Duncan searches out young, and middle-aged men, who’ve made a living selling sex to vacationing women. She’s fascinated with why women would pay for sex, what kind of men choose to serve them, and where they were both coming from emotionally. She gets caught up in the sensual dance that she is investigating and finds herself questioning her own limiting beliefs. It was a compelling subject to explore with much of the material in this novel based on actual conversations with male escorts in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico.

The writing is earthy, sensual, captivating and realistic. With Lie To Me an exposé on sex for money, it was my intention to expose the areas of life that women rarely discuss. I wanted to cross the moral boundaries imposed by religious beliefs and societal standards, and force us to question our deepest most intimate desires. I would love to hear what you think.

Take advantage of the Kindle sale price $1.99 and read a story that will take you through the wild side of sex tourism in Mexico.

Available at Amazon Lie To Me an exposé on sex for money

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Why is Harry Potter by JKRowlings so successful?

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How do you plot? Or do you? When I wrote my first novella, JET-Exposed fanfiction for Russell Blake’s JET  series I followed his direction and plotted. I use an Excel spread sheet and then refer back for each subsequent JET story when plotting the next.

I discovered this screenshot of JK Rowling‘s method amongst over 10,000 photos. I have no idea where I found it but could be on one of the news sites. Credit goes to some amazing author who shared this. I hope it inspires.

I’ve recently come across a book recommended by Toby Neal USA Today Best Selling Author, who loves and uses the methods described in Take Off Your Pants! Outline Your Books For Faster Better Writing. by Libbie Hawker. I will definitely incorporate her ideas into my plotting. https://goo.gl/ASBJAK

When JKR wrote the first Harry Potter book she used a typewriter. This one above is the handwritten plotting for her fifth book. I wonder if she’s moved to a computer yet. Either way, she’s written the most compelling stories so there’s something to be gained by plotting. Do you agree?

Beating the Block by Russell Blake

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Beating the Block

10 February 2017
by Russell Blake
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I am routinely asked by fellow authors how to get over “writer’s block.”

Here are my thoughts, as well as my technique.

First off, there is no writer’s block, at least as far as I can tell. There’s a lack of motivation to do the work, or there’s a problem with the story/pacing/plotting.

If there’s a lack of motivation to write, I’ve shared ideas in the past on how to overcome that. Ask yourself empowering questions, a la “how do I make this the most amazing chapter I’ve ever written, and have a blast doing so?” You’ll get a way different answer than if you ask yourself lousy questions, like “what’s the point?” or “how am I ever going to get this done?”

 

Beating the Block