We’re the generation that don’t want relationships

I received this in my email tonight from Jay Shetty. It truly made me think. I responded to his thought with those of my own. I may be a different generation, but unfortunately I can relate to this message in ways that make me … well, let’s simply say I can relate. Can you?

On Feb 5, 2019, at 3:22 PM, Jay Shetty <email@jayshetty.me> wrote:

Hi Lynda 

We want a Facebook official relationship everyone can like and
comment on.

We want that Instagram #relationshipgoals post.We want a Taco Tuesday partner, someone to text us good morning on Wednesday.

We want a +1 for all the weddings we keep getting invited to.“How did
they do it? How did they find their happily ever after?” 

But we are the generation who doesn’t want a relationship.

We swipe right in hopes of finding the right person.

We want the facade of a relationship, but we don’t want the work of one.

We hang out, happy hour, go to coffee, and grab a beer – anything to
avoid an actual date.
We don’t want relationships – we want “friends with benefits”.

We want all the rewards and none of the risk.All of the payout and none of the cost.

We want to connect – enough, but not too much.

We want to commit – a little, but not a lot.

Anything that will give us the illusion of a relationship, without being in
an actual relationship.

We want a placeholder, not a person.

We want a warm body, not a partner.

We sit around with friends discussing the rules, but no one even knows
the game we’re trying to play.…

Because the problem with our generation not wanting relationships is
that, at the end of the day, we actually do.

Do you think we’re the generation who doesn’t want relationships?
What do you think we’re really looking for? 

All the best, 
Jay Shetty

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