We’re the generation that don’t want relationships

I received this in my email tonight from Jay Shetty. It truly made me think. I responded to his thought with those of my own. I may be a different generation, but unfortunately I can relate to this message in ways that make me … well, let’s simply say I can relate. Can you?

On Feb 5, 2019, at 3:22 PM, Jay Shetty <email@jayshetty.me> wrote:

Hi Lynda 

We want a Facebook official relationship everyone can like and
comment on.

We want that Instagram #relationshipgoals post.We want a Taco Tuesday partner, someone to text us good morning on Wednesday.

We want a +1 for all the weddings we keep getting invited to.“How did
they do it? How did they find their happily ever after?” 

But we are the generation who doesn’t want a relationship.

We swipe right in hopes of finding the right person.

We want the facade of a relationship, but we don’t want the work of one.

We hang out, happy hour, go to coffee, and grab a beer – anything to
avoid an actual date.
We don’t want relationships – we want “friends with benefits”.

We want all the rewards and none of the risk.All of the payout and none of the cost.

We want to connect – enough, but not too much.

We want to commit – a little, but not a lot.

Anything that will give us the illusion of a relationship, without being in
an actual relationship.

We want a placeholder, not a person.

We want a warm body, not a partner.

We sit around with friends discussing the rules, but no one even knows
the game we’re trying to play.…

Because the problem with our generation not wanting relationships is
that, at the end of the day, we actually do.

Do you think we’re the generation who doesn’t want relationships?
What do you think we’re really looking for? 

All the best, 
Jay Shetty

Do you think people in general over-share?

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We live in such an electronically connected age. It brings the thought to mind about what we share on social media.

Do you think people in general over-share?


I’m going to pick on Facebook.  Take a look at most anyone’s Facebook page and odds are that you’ll know where they’ve been (Check-ins) (PARIS, nodding head vigorously), what they’ve eaten in the past few days, (yep, Guacamole with Felix!) what interests them, who their friends are, their children and grandchildren, their marital status, their birthday, and most likely their political views (at least I don’t share THAT!).

Maybe that’s good. Maybe that’s bad. I suppose it’s all in perspective.

The reality is that it is the world we live in.

I made a decision early on with Facebook that I would not post anything negative on my page. For the most part, I’ve kept with that decision. Of course, I have days when I feel down. Should I post it? Probably not. Because, by the time everyone finishes responding and trying to cheer me up, I’ll have forgotten all about it and wonder what they’re talking about.  So, I try to keep it free of negativity. ✅ When I feel down is when I’ll post something like one of these. 🙂

Another social media rule I practice is to avoid politics and religion.✅ I firmly believe Facebook is not the place to have heated arguments, and yet I see it happen all the time.

Political Views

Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE FACEBOOK! (MY CAPS and emoji) ❤️ It is the perfect way for me to see pictures of my step-great-granddaughter in Las Vegas, Nevada whom I’ve never had the pleasure of meeting. It is the perfect place to share my blog posts and pictures of interesting places I go, as well as discover new and interesting places others visit. It is the perfect place to promote events and celebrate birthdays. It is the perfect place to celebrate milestones and anniversaries. It is the perfect place to stay in touch with friends and family that I don’t see on a regular basis.

But, have we turned Facebook into an over-sharing cesspool? I’d really like to hear your thoughts about all of the open sharing on social media in general. Where is it headed?

I know most of you follow John Howell’s blog and see his Top Ten Lists. Hmmm, John, have you ever done one about posting on Facebook?  Well, if not, here’s an idea. “Top Ten Things NOT to Share on Facebook.” 🙂


Marketing on FB? A must read!

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via 5 Facebook Tips To Help With Your Book Marketing  by Nicholas C. Rossis

Tip #1: Images Posted Via Instagram Receive More Engagement

Tip #2: Posts With Hashtags Receive Less Engagement

Tip #3: Save Links For Later

Tip #4: Almost Half Of Facebook’s Users Are Mobile Only

Tip #5: Facebook’s Audience Is Growing Up In Western Markets

Thanks, Nicholas C. Rossis for this timely and enlightening piece.


Check out Gisela Hausmann’s latest book in her series the Little Blue Book for Authors 101 Clues to get more out of Facebook  

“Having read and learned (and been entertained) by eleven of Gisela’s many books, it is comfortable to admit that I always learn something fresh and valuable from her expertise and coaching. As a fellow reviewer on both Amazon and Goodreads it is fascinating to discover the depth of her experience and insights into the functioning of creating and subsequently marketing books – all the ins and outs, dos and don’ts she shares are astonishingly helpful.” from Grady Harp top Amazon Reviewer

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I really said what??


Today’s author interview is with Lynda Filler, a very interesting lady. Take it away, Lynda. To begin, tell us a little about yourself. 

Creativity is a way of life for me, poetry, painting, photography, and writing. I spent the first half of my career in fashion—design, buying and selling; and now focus on painting, photography, and writing. I travel whenever I get an opportunity and that’s part of why I love to set my stories in exciting and beautiful locales like Puerto Vallarta where I live and Paris where my darling grandbaby Félix lives. Yes, I’m accused of writing about my personal life and calling it fiction—but as yet I’ve never admitted to any of that! I was told I had six months to live in 2008, and I responded: “My mother told me only the good die young.” So, I’m certain I’ll still be writing and chasing young guys when I’m 90!

When did your first realize you wanted to be a writer?

In my teens. I wrote poetry in my teens, and my first novel in my twenties—BC—before computers. I wrote in longhand and my sis typed my manuscript. I never published it and carried it around with me for years. I threw it out two years ago, by mistake, thinking it was something else.

Who or what inspired you to actually sit down and start writing?

I promised myself in 2009 I’d take six months off work to write. In 2008 when I’d been given 6 months to live, it shook me up enough to commit to fulfilling a dream and start publishing. In ’09, ’11 and ’13 I published 3 poetry collections. Then in the summer of 2015 Russell Blake, NYT and USA best-selling author invited me to write into his JET for Kindle Worlds. Now I have a fifth JET novella out this week, JET-Reborn. I got over my fear of failure and not being good enough, and published 2 more novellas in Toby Neal’s LEI Crime World, then 3 novels and a memoir! That totals 14 so far!

If you could have been the original author of any book, what would it have been and why?

Ian Fleming author of the James Bond series. I think he sparked a whole genre of writing, action films, and entertainment. Really, it would be difficult to find anyone who’s never heard of James Bond! He paved the way for so many authors to write this type of stories which in turn became movies. Imagine how many people even to this day still watch 007! That’s a legacy!
How many books have you written? 14 Contemporary Fiction, women’s fiction, memoir/self-help, action novellas.

Is there a general theme to your stories?

There’s always a social issue or political challenge of some kind running through my stories. In the JET series, I’ve covered cyber-warfare, Mexican drug cartels, the Hong Kong Triads, ISIL, Syria WMD, Kidnapping, and the refugee crisis. The TARGET in the SUN series, social issues in Mexico like the drug cartels, human trafficking, and human rights, and love. Lie to Me: an exposé on sex for money explores sexual mores, the taboo against women paying men for sex, and love.

The titles of your published books?

The Love Fix, Love Rehab, I (Spy) Love, JET-Exposed, JET-Abducted, JET-Ultimatum, JET-Displaced and now this week JET-Reborn. The Road to San Pancho & Narco Orphans, LEI Crime KW TARGET in the SUN Winner Best in Contemporary Fiction 2017 BTRC, VANISHED in the SUN, Lie to me: an exposé on sex for money and a non-fiction/memoir LOVE The Beat Goes On

What do you consider your best/favorite line(s) you’ve written?

I think some of those lines are in Lie to me: an exposé on sex for money

A. She’d definitely crossed a professional line, but then, this is Mexico and there are no lines.
B. Ten minutes later, a little mascara, black mini, black lycra sleeveless top, gold strappy heels. Braless. Prowling clothes.
C. “Can we get together again?” Layla waited. Omar whispered in her ear. “You pay, I play.”

What is your favorite review of any one of your books?

Excerpt of a review on LOVE The Beat Goes On “This is a book every human alive should read and take away the lessons given. If I could give it ten stars, I would. It’s that good.” J. Sikes

Where can interested readers learn more about you and your books?
Author page on Amazon. https://www.amazon.com/Lynda-Filler/e/B00JNP2CS6

Thanks, Leta McCurry, that was a hoot! You can find Leta on FB at https://www.facebook.com/groups/417751701976803/permalink/424751547943485/?notif_id=1516388163122624&notif_t=tagged_with_story

113 Earthquakes in the past 7 days in OAXACA and CHIAPAS. Please help.

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The Earthquake in Chiapas/Oaxaca was 8.1! It was larger than the one that devastated Mexico City in the 80’s. Mexico City felt this one and had damage but nothing like the last major earthquake in the city.

However, the people of Chiapas and Oaxaca have lost everything. 65 Dead so far. And what the world doesn’t realize is these stats:

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After–and before–the 8.1 hit, Mexico was experiencing heavy earthquake activity in this bay and region. And since the 8.1, this region is taking one hit after another that doesn’t get reported. These are the stats for Mexico and the surrounding area.

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This region is known to be amongst the poorest areas of Mexico. So you can be certain no one has insurance, or extra savings to rebuild their lives. Shattered dreams, extreme poverty will persist without help.

In Mexico, we can donate easily in pesos on PayPal to https://www.cruzrojadonaciones.org

I also donated to the RED CROSS  on this site if you are from outside Mexico.


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Every peso counts!

And thank you TEXAS for coming to help our people.