Keep on going

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Whatever your dreams and goals, keep on going.

When I started my author business in the summer of 2015, I had no idea it would grow to 14 publications in 4 genres, Poetry, Action Novellas, Contemporary Fiction, and Memoir. I have at least six more books occupying space in my mind and my heart. How will I ever have the time to get it all done?

I’m sure I’m not the only author, business person, entrepreneur, artist, student, or mother, asking herself this same question. How do we find the time to get it all done? And furthermore, how to do we handle the failure of not getting it all done?

I know Mark Zuckerberg is not a great name this week to bring into the conversation on Success, but in a way, he represents the reality of the journey to success. It will never ever be a straight upward line. There will always be ups and downs, goals reached, others not, disappointments and wins. That’s life.

So this month I set the sales bar for my books higher yet again. No, I didn’t quite make it–off by 5%–but it was my best month ever since I started monitoring my journey. One of my goals though was to have one or all of my JET books in the top twenty at Amazon. JET-Reborn hit #12! So goal achieved. Goals need to be measurable and we need to be accountable for them to be goals. So last summer I started being more organized about how I was going to reach where I knew I wanted to go. It’s been fun. And no matter whether I reach the monthly goal or not, I set the bar higher each month. And I keep on going.

Let me share Mark’s list from Evan Carmichael  

The top 10 rules of success by Mark Zuckerberg.

  1. JUST START
  2. TAKE RISKS
  3. KEEP ON GOING
  4. BE PREPARED TO BE MISUNDERSTOOD
  5. HAVE HEROES
  6. DELIVER VALUE
  7. WORK IN A TEAM
  8. BELIEVE IN YOUR MISSION
  9. HELP OTHERS TO FIND THEIR PURPOSE
  10. REMEMBER WHERE YOU STARTED.

I have two favorites. One, Keep on Going…even in LOVE The Beat Goes On I quote The Little Engine That Could. If you don’t know that children’s book, look it up! And the second is Believe in your Mission. I would go a step further and say, write out your own personal mission statement. What are you trying to achieve, why, and how. It will help to keep your eye on the prize, to keep you focused on your goals.

Have an amazing week and whatever you do, do it with #LOVE and #PASSION.

 

 

What sets you apart?

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Angelia Jolie’s Profound Advice For Her 3 Daughters Belongs on Every Billboard

As I cruise into another year, another birthday coming March 18, I often think about the legacy I will leave for younger women. When I come across something that resonates and hopefully will be meaningful to all of you, I #love to share. This article is published in PopSugar

Angelina Jolie is stunning on the latest cover of Elle magazine, but it’s her words that are capturing hearts everywhere. The badass mom of six sat down with former Secretary of State John Kerry to discuss her campaign against the use of rape and sexual violence as weapons of war, why she believes positive change for women’s rights can happen globally if men and women work together, and the advice she gives her three daughters, Vivienne, 9, Shiloh, 11, and Zahara, 13.

“I tell my daughters, ‘What sets you apart is what you are willing to do for others'” Angelina shared. “‘Anyone can put on a dress and makeup. It’s your mind that will define you. Find out who you are, what you think, and what you stand for. And fight for others to have those same freedoms. A life of service is worth living.'”

The First They Killed My Father director also shared why she feels attitudes about sexual violence must change in addition to changing laws. “I think of how hard women fought to get us to where we are today,” she said. “Everything counts, from the way you hold yourself in daily life and educate yourself on your own rights, to solidarity with other women around the world.”

The interview, which hits newsstands on Feb. 20, aims to raise awareness for International Women’s Day on March 8. “When it comes down to it, we still treat violence against women as a lesser crime,” Angelina continued. “In some countries, sexual violence is less of a taboo discussion. It’s something more people expect their leaders to act on.”

Fortunately, the 42-year-old humanitarian sees progress being made. “Over 150 countries have signed a commitment to end impunity for war-zone rape. There are new teams in place to gather evidence and support prosecutions. I was in Kenya last summer as UN peacekeeping troops received new training since peacekeepers have been part of the problem. We’re working with NATO on training, protection, and getting more women in the military. But there is so far to go.”

 

 

This Mindset Will Sabotage Your Health. Here’s What To Do Instead.

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Thanks, this is amazing and what I needed to hear today. Check out her health blog –reprinted from Michelle Robin, D.C. 

 

It’s time you make some changes in your life. It’s time to kick it up a notch. It’s time to do that thing, meet that goal, or reach that desired outcome. But you’ve tried this before and you didn’t make it happen. You just weren’t disciplined enough. You failed. You’ll probably fall short this time too. So why bother?

This dialogue may sound harsh, but I know that so many people reading this can relate to that thought process. So first, let’s all recognize that change can be hard, especially if you’re not just creating a new habit but breaking an old one. I find that one of the biggest obstacles to making changes really stick is having an “all-or-nothing” mindset. If you’re not sure exactly what that means, see if any of these sound familiar:

  • You ate that piece of cake at the office birthday party. Now you might as well get fast food on the way home.
  • You already missed yoga twice this week and you’ve had a long day, so you’ll just skip tonight, too.
  • You didn’t quite make it the whole bike route any day this week. You’re just never going to get there, so why bother at all?
  • You look at the big goal and it feels so far away and overwhelming. It’s too much to take on, so you stop or don’t start at all.

These are just a few examples of how the all-or-nothing mindset can sabotage your success when you’re working on any change in your life but especially when it comes to your health. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are four surefire ways to make changes that actually stick:

1. Lean into your wellness support system.

When you tell your wellness community—friends, family, practitioners, trainer, etc.—what your goals are, it’s harder to fall into a negative mindset. Ask for their support and tell them how they can best help you stay motivated. Sometimes it’s difficult to see our own patterns, but those close to us can look at the situation from a distance. Give your tribe permission to point out when they see any old patterns emerge.

2. Don’t underestimate the ripple effect.

One of the easiest follies is trying to change everything at once. You want to eat more healthfully so you go gluten-free, dairy-free, all organic, no processed foods all at once. Anyone of those changes can be difficult day in and day out when you first start. The same goes for exercise, decluttering your house, or any other lifestyle change you’re undertaking. See the bigger goal and break it down into small changes you can achieve or fold into your life more easily, one at a time. Those small changes will create big shifts and cause a ripple effect in your life. Each small win will build motivation and confidence that you can really do this. So ask yourself: What’s the next small change that moves me toward my goal?

3. Be flexible with how.

When we’re overly strict about the changes we’re making, it can cause trouble. Take exercise as an example. Saying you’ll hit the 5:45 a.m. SoulCycle class each morning is great, but what happens when you miss it? Don’t get me wrong; having a plan and following it is wonderful, but make sure you allow for a little wiggle room and always have a plan B (like an evening class or at at-home workout you can do). You might even consider making the goal itself broader. Perhaps instead of aqua aerobics each morning, it’s 45 minutes of movement in general. Then, what that movement is and when or where it happens can vary. The important part is the essence of the goal—getting more movement into your life.

4. If you fall, just step back up.

Life is a journey, and the changes you’re making are now part of your larger path. If you stumble off the path—whether it be just a little bit or entirely—just stand up, brush yourself off, and step back on the path. Aim for progress, not perfection. You may even consider planning for times you step off the path without any guilt. I call that “planning my toxic,” at least when it comes to food. You see, I love French fries. There is nothing about them that fits into my ideal nutritional plan, but if I know I’m going to a certain restaurant with friends next week and I love their fries, I just plan on eating them. No shame. No guilt. And I look forward to it. I don’t let that diversion from my healthy eating plan steer me toward cheesecake for dessert and junk food the whole next day. I just step back on the path by making my next choice a healthy one.

The take-home message? You can create the life of your dreams. You can make changes that stick and transform your health. Just remember to ditch the “all-or-nothing” mindset, lean into your tribe, go after smaller changes to keep up the progress, be flexible with how you accomplish your goals, and anytime you step off the path, just step right back on with the next choice.

 

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/this-mindset-will-sabotage-your-health-heres-what-to-do-instead

 

Be Willing to DO IT AFRAID!

 

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YOUR JOB IS TO
Trust your intuition, your gut, your heart.

Lets’ take that chance… on …. following our passion!
We must ignore the chatter in our head, the doubt, worry, judgment, and fear.

Your intuition is pushing you forward, dance, sing, follow your passion even while your chatter says, what if I fail? Your brain is designed to keep you safe, it’s logical, but your INTUITION is that spark of passion, love, desire, that “I want to leave my fingerprint on this planet!”
That desire is found in your gut; you “feel it here, and here and here…”

Your job is not to turn down the doubt but to turn up the passion, the faith, the possibility… Follow the plan…. the brain likes a plan, do the details, set the plan in place….

Turn down the volume in your head–your fear–and turn up the volume of your intuition. Follow your heart.

Make Big decisions with your heart/gut, and the small decisions with your head.

PLAY BIG.

DREAM A DREAM that MAKES YOU NERVOUS–3/5/10 years out.  IF IT DOESN’T MAKE YOU NERVOUS, IT’S NOT BIG ENOUGH! IF You know HOW you’re going to get there, you’re not playing big enough….

 

Watch Lisa Nichols’s 10 Rules of Success    at  Evan Carmichael

 

AKA Honesty Can Be Brutal

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Honesty can be brutal. And it can be scary. But it can also save your life.

When I sat down to write LOVE, The Beat Goes On, many habits that helped me achieve my life goals came back to me. One was the vision board.

In the early nineties, I was living in Montreal, worried about the recession, my future and that of my family. I started thinking about what I wanted in my life. I had two photos on my wall in my office. One showed incredible majestic ski home in Vail. The other photo was the turquoise water of the tropics. I wanted that life. I’d forgotten about both those photos until this year.

When I decided it was time to write LOVE–actually it was Dr. Wayne Dyer who reminded me it was time–I started writing down the habits I’d developed the things that helped me heal from incurable heart disease. Envisioning was a big one. And I remembered those photos.

Have you ever made a vision board? If not, it’s a great way to gather your thoughts on what precisely you want out of your life. Over the years I’ve cut and pasted photos on my cork board, written lists and notes to self. Last year in the fall, I was feeling restless and my dreams were begging me to pay attention. I’ve always been in tune with my heart, so I knew I needed to make changes in my life. I used Canva—a free online website dedicated to graphics—downloaded photos from the Internet, and designed a composite poster of the life I really wanted for myself.

In January events transpired that I could say were out of my control. But, were they?

I envisioned a life that would leave no room for the emotionally draining work I did at that time. I had what I thought was the perfect timeline stretched out over two years. I assumed I was in control. Major changes would have to happen for this life to occur. And they did. Quickly.  And then I woke up one morning saying “Oh my God!” It was clear to me. I knew I had created/envisioned the life I was meant to live.

It’s been a very busy spring. Two months ago I published my first non-fiction, a memoir/healing book LOVE The Beat Goes On. Six weeks ago I began a daily Yoga practice. It has turned into a physical commitment to gratitude for the extraordinary health and life I’ve been blessed to live. I’m writing full time now although Oprah hasn’t yet discovered my book. I’m traveling to Paris this summer to visit family. And my current work of fiction features this amazing home on the water in the PNW. All of the above are on my vision board, the one I created last summer.

Never, ever underestimate the power of your mind.

And by the way, that amazing ski home in Vail, I custom built something even more spectacular in Whistler B.C. in the late nineties. After I sold it, I found that tropical getaway in a coastal town in Mexico.

What inspired this blog? I was standing having lunch in my kitchen looking out at the swaying palm trees and thinking about the newest Jet-Displaced book 4 I’m currently editing. I wondered about my grandbaby in Paris and hoped he was enjoying his first airplane trip to Italy. I’m so excited to be spending a month with them in August. I had the sudden realization that I was truly living The Life I Was Meant to Live.

If it’s to be, it will always be up to me.

Ask yourself the question: do you deserve to live your dreams?

 

 

 

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