Is it really that simple?

What is your best advice for staying youthful and healthy as long as you can?

It’s really simple to me. So enjoy the wisdom I shared on Quora tonight. Here’s my list.

  1. Be happy. There is nothing that ages us more than bitterness, and recriminations.
  2. Don’t live in the past. Embrace the present. Refuse to worry about the future because the future never comes.
  3. Laugh a lot, smile often. If you’re a woman, it hides the wrinkles. Life will try to take you down, throw curve balls that will bring you to your knees. Stand tall, be strong, never look back.
  4. LOVE, love yourself, love your life, love the planet, love your family, love your partner(s). Don’t be stingy with your love.
  5. Have no regrets. Never apologize about your life choices and decisions. You can’t change them, even if they were wrong in hindsight… let that stuff go.
  6. Don’t worry about the one that got away. If you’re too busy worrying about a bad relationship or marriage, you’re too bitter to notice the one ahead of you that might be that elusive soul-mate.
  7. Always lead with your heart. Yes, you will screw up, whether it’s in friendships, or with a child, or a mate. Forgive yourself often. You’re only human.
Lynda Filler Author 2019

This Mindset Will Sabotage Your Health. Here’s What To Do Instead.

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Thanks, this is amazing and what I needed to hear today. Check out her health blog –reprinted from Michelle Robin, D.C. 

 

It’s time you make some changes in your life. It’s time to kick it up a notch. It’s time to do that thing, meet that goal, or reach that desired outcome. But you’ve tried this before and you didn’t make it happen. You just weren’t disciplined enough. You failed. You’ll probably fall short this time too. So why bother?

This dialogue may sound harsh, but I know that so many people reading this can relate to that thought process. So first, let’s all recognize that change can be hard, especially if you’re not just creating a new habit but breaking an old one. I find that one of the biggest obstacles to making changes really stick is having an “all-or-nothing” mindset. If you’re not sure exactly what that means, see if any of these sound familiar:

  • You ate that piece of cake at the office birthday party. Now you might as well get fast food on the way home.
  • You already missed yoga twice this week and you’ve had a long day, so you’ll just skip tonight, too.
  • You didn’t quite make it the whole bike route any day this week. You’re just never going to get there, so why bother at all?
  • You look at the big goal and it feels so far away and overwhelming. It’s too much to take on, so you stop or don’t start at all.

These are just a few examples of how the all-or-nothing mindset can sabotage your success when you’re working on any change in your life but especially when it comes to your health. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are four surefire ways to make changes that actually stick:

1. Lean into your wellness support system.

When you tell your wellness community—friends, family, practitioners, trainer, etc.—what your goals are, it’s harder to fall into a negative mindset. Ask for their support and tell them how they can best help you stay motivated. Sometimes it’s difficult to see our own patterns, but those close to us can look at the situation from a distance. Give your tribe permission to point out when they see any old patterns emerge.

2. Don’t underestimate the ripple effect.

One of the easiest follies is trying to change everything at once. You want to eat more healthfully so you go gluten-free, dairy-free, all organic, no processed foods all at once. Anyone of those changes can be difficult day in and day out when you first start. The same goes for exercise, decluttering your house, or any other lifestyle change you’re undertaking. See the bigger goal and break it down into small changes you can achieve or fold into your life more easily, one at a time. Those small changes will create big shifts and cause a ripple effect in your life. Each small win will build motivation and confidence that you can really do this. So ask yourself: What’s the next small change that moves me toward my goal?

3. Be flexible with how.

When we’re overly strict about the changes we’re making, it can cause trouble. Take exercise as an example. Saying you’ll hit the 5:45 a.m. SoulCycle class each morning is great, but what happens when you miss it? Don’t get me wrong; having a plan and following it is wonderful, but make sure you allow for a little wiggle room and always have a plan B (like an evening class or at at-home workout you can do). You might even consider making the goal itself broader. Perhaps instead of aqua aerobics each morning, it’s 45 minutes of movement in general. Then, what that movement is and when or where it happens can vary. The important part is the essence of the goal—getting more movement into your life.

4. If you fall, just step back up.

Life is a journey, and the changes you’re making are now part of your larger path. If you stumble off the path—whether it be just a little bit or entirely—just stand up, brush yourself off, and step back on the path. Aim for progress, not perfection. You may even consider planning for times you step off the path without any guilt. I call that “planning my toxic,” at least when it comes to food. You see, I love French fries. There is nothing about them that fits into my ideal nutritional plan, but if I know I’m going to a certain restaurant with friends next week and I love their fries, I just plan on eating them. No shame. No guilt. And I look forward to it. I don’t let that diversion from my healthy eating plan steer me toward cheesecake for dessert and junk food the whole next day. I just step back on the path by making my next choice a healthy one.

The take-home message? You can create the life of your dreams. You can make changes that stick and transform your health. Just remember to ditch the “all-or-nothing” mindset, lean into your tribe, go after smaller changes to keep up the progress, be flexible with how you accomplish your goals, and anytime you step off the path, just step right back on with the next choice.

 

https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/this-mindset-will-sabotage-your-health-heres-what-to-do-instead

 

Death Sentence

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Six months death sentence.

In 2008 I was told my heart condition was not responding to medication and to get my affairs in order. I’ve never been known to back down from a challenge so I fought back. And I’m still here baby!!

This is what other’s are saying about my story published on Amazon.

“uplifting and insightful. Powerful and unforgettable” JackMagnus, 5 Star Readers’ Favorite

“You (your book) have been so encouraging after a cardiomyopathy diagnosis. The doctor had NOTHING encouraging to say. I left his office in shock.” anonymous to respect privacy.

“Her story is honest, straightforward, and powerful, and many readers will be able to connect well with her experiences and how her spirit came to believe that sometimes the impossible can be made possible with the way we think.”
Reviewed by Mamta Madhavan

Her emphasis on the need to always listen to your body and not ignore any warning signs made this a compelling read.”

“I know any number of people who have been given a death sentence and suffer years of treatment. When Lynda Filler was given this same prognosis, she decided to defy the odds and embrace life. Her choice to believe the impossible and live the imaginable is truly inspirational. I loved her energy, her zest for life – both of which are evident on every page of this book.” G. Plano
 
This is a book every human alive should read and take away the lessons given. If I could give it ten stars, I would. It’s that good.” J. Sikes

 

My story is a crazy miraculous journey. I hope you enjoy it and get a copy for family and friends. #LOVE

 

#3 AMAZON Hot New Release!

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on March 31, 2017
Format: Paperback|Verified Purchase
“This book is going in the birthday bags, Christmas stockings and every get well package that I send this year. Lynda Filler’s journey through cardiomyopathy is amazing, inspiring, and thought provoking about more than just illness. Anyone facing a major obstacle, a fork in the road, or looking to reinvent their lives would benefit from a journey through Lynda’s heart and soul story.”
My Story:

In 2008 two events collided. First, I was diagnosed with incurable heart disease, and second, the man I loved went away on a two-week business trip and disappeared for four months. LOVE: The Beat Goes On tells the parts of my life that I can put into print. The rest you will have to fill in with your imagination. This is the story of my journey, the actions I took, and the things I had to let go, to be alive and free from heart disease in 2017.

LOVE The Beat Goes On now Live

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“I read the book in one sitting- all I can say is that I am glad you were ready to write because I was ready to read!”

“Your journey has been nothing short of amazing and I am so glad you told it; I believe that it will help many.”

LOVE The Beat Goes On NOW ON AMAZON Kindle Pre-Order, Paperback out by April 2 or sooner.  https://goo.gl/VfRrkf

When your cardiologist tells you to “Get your affairs in order, your heart condition is incurable,” what do you do? In 2008 that’s exactly what happened to me.

In LOVE The Beat Goes On I share my journey in the typical fast-paced, edgy, in-your-face style I’m known for in my novels. I’m hard-hitting, and tell you exactly how it is. I write about romantic experiences that may shock you, but make no apologies for my unconventional life style. Nor do I hold back taking responsibility for the things that I believe created my dis-ease.

You will definitely question a woman who walks around with shortness of breath and blames it on sinus medication; then makes a decision to drive, all alone, from Puerto Vallarta, Mexico to Whistler, Canada with undiagnosed Idiopathic Dilated Cardiomyopathy. Women are often self-care-challenged and I was no the exception.

If you are fighting any kind of illness or dis-ease, you are not alone! I’ve walked my talk, and after an experience in the summer of 2015 relating to Dr. Wayne Dyer, I’m now ready to share my story

I know how it feels to be told you’re not healing or your condition is incurable. At no point will I undermine anything your physicians tell you to do. I am not a medical doctor. I will explain the powerful, yet simple concepts and beliefs that I believe led to my healing. Most of all, I will show you how I used these simple principles to design and live, the fully healed life I now enjoy in 2017.

You will shake your head in wonder, laugh, and maybe cry too.

Thank you for being part of my journey.

 

 

 

LOVE The Beat Goes On

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My amazing birthday ended with fireworks and chocolate lava cake, and two young men who filled my heart with joy. But that’s not where it started.

The beginning of a new decade is a pivotal time in anyone’s life . For me it’s a champagne-popping moment to make a committment to take risks that will take my breath away. It’s also an anniversary. It was almost ten years ago that I was given six months to live and I’m about to publish that story.

I love five star dining; I also love dining on my own. But… The little voice inside my head tells me I should go with someone. What will “people” think? Would you feel pity for a single woman in an elegant restaurant alone on her birthday? It wasn’t an easy decision. I made the reservation and thought about canceling it several times. But I did it!

Every single moment was magical. I held a conversation inside my head of all the wonderful adventures and plans I have for 2017. I let go of control and suggested to the waiter that he surprise me with each course of my meal. He nodded in amazement, but reveled in my pleasure at his choices.

The waterfront bistro nurtured me with understated elegance and candle-lit tables on rattan mats on the sand. I watched the sunset paddle boarders and the twinkling lights of the yachts resting on gentle turquoise waters. And sighed over the soft lilac and rosy glow across the Sierra Madre Mountains surrounding the Bay of Banderas.

But most magical of all, were two young boys that shyly approached my table after my surfboard with chocolate, macaroons and ice cream erupted in delightful fireworks.!

“My Daddy said it was okay for us to come and tell you that we think you are beautiful, and we want to say Happy Birthday.” How perfect is that.

The next 365 days will hold moments of magical living that will take me outside my comfort zone. Do you want to join me?

 

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