Why did it hurt so much?

What was the most difficult thing you had to deal with after writing and publishing your personal story or memoir?

To understand what I’m about to reveal, let me explain that in 2008 I was given 6 months to live! I was diagnosed with a heart condition that I didn’t know I had but the symptoms had been with me for at least a year. After months of treatment and absolutely no improvement, the doctors told me to “get my affairs in order”—and they weren’t referring to my love life!

Writing LOVE The Beat Goes On was the most amazing experience for me, and yet, so highly personal and revealing. I cried a lot and laughed too. There’s a great quote I read after I published it: When you write a memoir, there’s no place to hide. I also read a comment about memoirs that said there is rarely truth in a memoir. Two very differing points of view and both equally correct.

The book won medals, and was chosen as a Book of the Month club selection, and read by groups, and sits at 4.5 Stars in the top 25 of Amazon Health, Fitness books. BUT, I got one super hurtful nasty review. The writer compared me to Elizabeth Gilbert of Eat Pray Love which I loved, but the review said basically that I (and Liz) was a woman of passion and privilege. I can’t argue the passion, but what hurt so much was the “privilege.”

My immediate thoughts went to my upbringing. My Dad was a military guy with all the challenges of returning from war. He drank, he smoked and I only recall bad times that ended in arguments between my mom and him. I also remember bearing the brunt of his anger and leaving the supper table daily in tears. But those times helped me become independent and self-sufficient.

We moved every three years—I still have difficulty staying in one place and forming attachments—including marriages. I found out I divorce very well. I had my first job at the age of 11, washing hair in a beauty salon on the weekends. And I worked my butt off my entire life—built businesses, lost them, and kept on going. Hardly a privileged life.

I don’t say these things for pity. I don’t believe in self-pity or blame. I mention them as facts. The same way I might smile when I buy a new pair of shoes. When I was a kid, I got a new pair of shoes when there was a hole in the sole and the cardboard that blocked the hole didn’t work anymore.

This was the only life I knew. And I learned from it. I came away strong and independent and determined to make a place for myself in the world. I brought up my boys, I supported my family, and when fate gave me 6 months to live, I never ever gave up my belief that I could and would heal myself.

It’s okay to dislike my personal story or not feel hope and inspiration for the way I fought through those challenges and defied the doctors’ diagnoses. But the personal attack, that was so painful. It brought back a ton of memories, you know, those deeply buried bad things that you never tell anyone!

When you write about your life, you will always be scrutinized. And let me tell you, it’s really hard not to take it personally. But the good news is, I get emails almost daily from people that have been inspired or are suffering from the same condition as I was, and I know I’ve made a difference in their lives. And for that, I would tell my story over and over again.

Thanks for asking.

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Be Driven by Passion

 

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Love this: Evan Carmichaels Top Ten Rules for Success DEMI LOVATO

“If you’re looking for ways to find your path, focus, and keep going, this video–and list–is for you. Lessons to be celebrated from a woman who speaks openly about being bullied so badly growing up that she asked for homeschooling, and having an eating disorder to having to having 5 albums hit Gold in the U. S. and setting a Guinness World record for being the youngest judge on the X Factor Show. Here are her top ten rules for Success!

  1. FIND YOUR PATH
  2. PUT OUT POSITIVE ENERGY
  3. BE DRIVEN BY PASSION
  4. FOCUS
  5. BE AUTHENTIC
  6. FOLLOW YOUR GUT
  7. KEEP GOING
  8. POUR YOUR HEART INTO YOUR WORK
  9. INSPIRE, HELP OTHERS, MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE
  10. PERFORM AMAZING

What an amazing, open and inspiring woman–a great role model for all young women today.

You can listen to her whole interview on Evan’s YouTube channel https://youtu.be/MzqrvJeWMPk

 

 

Let’s Rock!

 

 

I felt it was time for an update. So this is the most recent post on YouTube on Cardiomyopathy. I originally started sharing my healing because I believed it was important to give people hope. No matter what the doctor tells you, your life is not over until it’s over!

This is my story, and yes it’s personal; but I really wrote it for you, your friends and family. Everyone needs to know they are not alone in their suffering. I’m someone who cares and I want to share the things that helped me heal. The doctors, and websites at that time, said my heart condition was incurable. But you don’t have to accept it. I didn’t. And now it’s ten years later! 

I wish you the best in health and happiness. #LOVE and get out there and live your life!

 

 

113 Earthquakes in the past 7 days in OAXACA and CHIAPAS. Please help.

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The Earthquake in Chiapas/Oaxaca was 8.1! It was larger than the one that devastated Mexico City in the 80’s. Mexico City felt this one and had damage but nothing like the last major earthquake in the city.

However, the people of Chiapas and Oaxaca have lost everything. 65 Dead so far. And what the world doesn’t realize is these stats:

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After–and before–the 8.1 hit, Mexico was experiencing heavy earthquake activity in this bay and region. And since the 8.1, this region is taking one hit after another that doesn’t get reported. These are the stats for Mexico and the surrounding area.

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This region is known to be amongst the poorest areas of Mexico. So you can be certain no one has insurance, or extra savings to rebuild their lives. Shattered dreams, extreme poverty will persist without help.

In Mexico, we can donate easily in pesos on PayPal to https://www.cruzrojadonaciones.org

I also donated to the RED CROSS  on this site if you are from outside Mexico.

http://www.redcross.org

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Every peso counts!

And thank you TEXAS for coming to help our people.