What was your biggest culture shock going to Turkey?

I LOVE this question! But I can’t answer with only one thing!

I’ve been on a long journey that started the beginning of February 2019 and spanned many countries and cities: Dallas, Tx. Paris, Fr. New Delhi, Agra, & Goa, India, (Istanbul, Turkey for 2 nights) Jerusalem and Tel Avi, Israel, and finally Bangkok, Krabi, Thailand.

But let me go back to last year when I said jokingly: “I could live out a suitcase!” And that’s a big thing to say when you are 72!

I decided to take myself seriously and after decades of working full time, I liquidated my life, put my photos and important papers into one suitcase, grabbed my knapsack with my computer and my iPhone X and took off! Turkey was not on my list when I planned this amazing voyage. But, I planned all this through a company that specialized in long trips (mine was over 4 months) and Chris said, “Lynda, layovers are free. Stop in Istanbul.” He and Istanbul changed my life.

Why do I LOVE Turkey and what shocked and surprised me? First. two days were not enough. So I came back to Istanbul after Thailand loved it so much I recently applied for a long term visa!

YES, I was shocked in an amazing way, with Turkey. Let me share the reasons why:

  1. The #1 Country for the Sexiest Men in the World is Turkey Yes, it’s true. Just walk through Sultanahmet Square where the Blue Mosque is and you will see what I mean!
  2. I LOVE the call to prayer. Do you know that there are over 81K mosques in Turkey? Over 3100 are in Istanbul. I was brought up Catholic and spent a year in the convent. But I don’t truly identify with any organized religion. The call to prayer happens through loudspeakers at every mosque, 5 times a day. I find it soothing and very special.
  3. Islam. Turkey is a Muslim European country. Of the 17 million people of this thoroughly modern and gorgeous city, 96.4% practice Islam. And from what I’ve learned since I arrived here, the religion is not anything like what we learn and hear about in the West.
  4. The people are genuinely kind. I’ve never experienced any violence whatsoever—not that it doesn’t happen, I’m sure—but I walk the streets at night, take the trams, wander endlessly, come home from dining through the city, walking down the hills from Taksim, and never once have I ‘felt’ unsafe. Btw, it helps to have a built-in-danger alarm.
  5. And if all of these things alone didn’t surprise me, I must say the language drives me nuts!! Hah, I walk around with google translate, although most people involved in tourism speak English. I feel so stupid. I can’t wrap my tongue around the words. I can’t relate them to anything—I have some French, Spanish, and of course English. I can even understand some Italian! But Turkish, even though I watch Netflix Turkish cop shows, I still don’t get it!
  6. Food! Don’t get me started! If you haven’t tried Turkish Ice Cream—it’s so creamy—you have not lived!The food is so good and so plentiful. And do try the varieties of baklava, and chocolate, and Turkish Delights!
  7. The night. Istanbul never sleeps. You can find restaurants open at 2 a.m all over the city!

My “shocks” have all been positive—except the damn language!! haha.

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Lynda Filler is the author of 15 published books on Amazon. Award-winning Target in the Sun is .99c today.

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For women

The world tells us to be quiet from a very early age.

When the literature we read in school is written by men, and bookstores are dominated by books written by men, and laws are made mostly by men. You won’t say anything important, the world says, so you might as well not speak.

Be nice, be pretty, be quiet.

Most women who have dared to write a book has been told not to, a hundred times, a thousand ways. With words, with fists. We have been silenced a million times. And we fight back.

I’ve been blessed in this book world to be surrounded by women with voices, who use them, who encourage other women to use theirs.

You can’t write books, the world says.

These women say, I just did.

But the fight doesn’t stop there.

You can’t sell your books, the world says, speaking through the mouths of editors and agents and, most painful of all, other authors. There is always someone helpful enough to “tell it like it is,” to lower our expectations, and we’re supposed to thank them for it.

And then I see these same women, these brave, smart, talented women, say, “You’re right, I can’t.”

Why does this matter?

Why can’t we be content to write books but never earn a living from them?

Because “be content” is a not-so-subtle euphemism for “be quiet.” It’s just another way to say that our words will never be as important, as worthy, as valuable as a man’s.

A woman’s books are a hobby, but a man’s are a career.

It matters because the voices we most need to hear are the ones who are primary caregivers and work one job, two jobs, three jobs already. They need books to replace at least one of them or they cannot write them, and it DOES NOT HELP to tell them to be quiet.

I started this newsletter thinking if I could just help one woman earn a living through her books, it would be worth it. You can take your career to the next level—not with the luck of a viral book, but by learning marketing. Here’s how, here’s how, here’s how. Over forty emails about Facebook ads and release parties and newsletters.

It took me a while to realize I wasn’t fighting the lack of knowledge.

It gets me down, sometimes. It gets me down today. Because what I’m fighting is an entire lifetime of being told to be quiet, to be content. I can say here’s how until I’m blue in the face, but it won’t convince an author she can earn a livable wage if she’s already sure she can’t.

In the same way, you could write out every single thing you know about characterization and plot structure and language. But if you have that one family member or friend who always says, “I want to write a book,” but never does? That won’t help them. Because they are their own barrier. All of the knowledge about how to write books is already out there in the world, floating around the internet and libraries, so why doesn’t everyone who wants to write a book do it?

This is what I mean when I say that authors control our careers.

The good: that we can apply focused marketing to sell more books.

And the bad: that when we tell ourselves it’s impossible, it is.

Every single day there is a post that drops into my feed that sounds like this: I’m discouraged, sales are down, I might have to quit. I already know that [insert the best marketing techniques here] don’t work for me, and I just can’t [do a thing that is totally do-able], so what else is there?

There’s just no answer to that. Bless the authors who try. I used to be one of them, but I haven’t for a long time. I had to realize then, too, that it wasn’t a lack of knowledge.

It’s something else.

The same reason I told myself I was too busy to do this, or too stuck in my ways to do that, or too much of a control freak to do that. And if I’m a real artist, I don’t have to do any of that anyway. All of these ways I limited myself before I even got started.

I’m telling you this because if there’s something you want to do, an amount you want to earn, a number of books you want to sell, and you have not achieved that yet, you are your own barrier.  I am my own barrier. Somewhere along the way, someone told us we can’t, it might have been to hurt us or to “help” us, but they said it and we believed them.

So let’s just call bullshit on that. Collectively. Right now.

When you believe that you can, really believe, like with the same certainty that you know you could get up and drink a glass of water right now, and when you want it, really want it, like you’re dying of thirst, that’s when you’ll do it. Not before.

#10 Have Passion!

The only true freedom you will ever have is the thoughts you can put on paper. Henry Rollins

I particularly love the way he talks about writing. If you have a thought, write it down. Anyone can write. Anyone can communicate a thought–even if you are the only person that reads it…

Sometimes…I am the only person that reads what I write, it’s too raw, too personal to share. 

This is Henry Rollins top 10 list for life and success via Evan Carmichael. I share it with you.

 

  1. Be Driven
  2. Work Hard
  3. Keep Moving Forward
  4. Just Do It
  5. Take Your Shot
  6. Communicate Emotionally
  7. Try Out Different Things
  8. Manage Yourself
  9. Learn From Your Past
  10. Have Passion 

 

 

And this is a small part of my story…