If good girls are bad girls that haven’t got caught…

Are you afraid of getting old?

I’ve obsessed over my body my entire life. Until I found a very special kind of love.

Here’s a photo of me at 9 years of age. I think that’s around the time I became aware of how important body image was to me.

I never thought I was beautiful. But I can see in this picture I was cute! This photo was taken in 1956, I was 9, well before the internet. I don’t remember any body-shaming or certain ideals that we had to conform to in our era. The insecurity was all inside of me.

I’ve never been an athlete although I danced when I was young — you can see from my ballerina stance. So the physical things that many might miss as they age have never bothered me. But I’ve always been ‘on a diet’ which is a pathetic way to go through life. I’ve never been fat! But again, it’s the feeling of never being enough — pretty enough, skinny enough, talented enough — a woman’s insecurity for sure.

At some point in life, I realized I had to find that confidence inside myself to understand and love myself exactly the way I am.

1994 driving across Canada from Montreal to Whistler, BC after losing my fashion business and declaring personal bankruptcy. I have a Ph.D. in Starting Over.

I am not my physical body.

I’m a woman of many talents and lots of heart. I would say that since I was given 6 months to live in 2008, I’ve finally got a grip on my physical selfI stopped angsting over whether I could ski from the top of Blackcomb mountain to the base without stopping — who cares? I stopped worrying about old age because I might not live to experience old age. And I vowed to get a grip on my emotional insecurities and do the things I’d always wanted to do! I made a promise to myself to publish my poetry (the way I journaled my life) and then moved on to write and publish novels. In other words, I made a decision that I would not allow the physical parts of aging to define me. Instead, I would go deeper into what I was born to do, to inspire and motivate myself and others, to spread love and compassion — to make a difference in the world, no matter how small.

People tell me all the time that I am beautiful. I will be 73 in 3 weeks. I hear this more today than ever before in my life. Why? I believe it’s a smile that’s sincere, and a life purpose that shines through my eyes. These are gifts that I’ve earned through years of mistakes and disappointment.

I refuse to dwell in that place of “my body is aging” instead I say “I’m so grateful for second chances.” I’m happy my instincts send me to a doctor when something physical needs attention. But most of all, I give thanks daily for my outlook in life.

I will not allow the actions of others to define my emotional well-being. I’m not saying that’s an easy thing — I’ve worked hard to overcome past pain and current disappointments. I still have a child-like wonder and joy of a world that still has so much to show me, and people I have yet to meet. I will always have places I have to visit even if they are only blocks away from where I live. And I have a curiosity about everything and continue to learn new things daily.

I finally retired from my day job at the end of 2018. I sold everything I owned and bought an airplane ticket with no return destination. I left Mexico where I’d lived for 18 years, celebrated my 72nd birthday in Tel Aviv, and after I’d traveled for a few months, returned to Istanbul where I am today. Eighteen months ago I didn’t know where Turkey was on the world map!

Curiosity and attitude will truly sustain me and keep me off the ‘pity-party’ wagon as my body ages.

And if my mind goes, so be it — I won’t know what I’m missing anyway!

I only have one question:

If good girls are bad girls that haven’t been caught, where will the good girls go when we die?

Istanbul 2020.

Courage/Failure/Belief

 

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What would you do with your life if you believed that you would succeed?

It takes courage to find your purpose, align with it, and follow your heart and soul, to success. There’s a tremendous amount of information out there that can guide us, mentor us, but first, we have to make a decision. And making that decision for many is the hardest part.

I listen to Evan Carmichael and his #BELIEVE Nation almost every day. Evan achieved success at a young age by selling a tech concept for tons of cash. He went on to found something he is passionate about and #Believes in, mentoring entrepreneurs. We are all self-employed entrepreneurs–even though you might not yet realize it. Our business is finding and living our lives/purpose! Most mornings I receive an email in from Evan saying “click this link and listen to the Top 10 Rules for Success. He features someone different every day. All I can say is Just Do It! I’ll add the link for you at the bottom.

Right now let me share today’s top ten from LES BROWN. This is one of the most powerful top 10 interviews that I’ve ever listened too. And I particularly loved the bonus conversation at the end. If anything is relevant to you, please leave a comment. Thanks

  1. DON’T LOSE TIME
  2. FAIL YOUR WAY TO GREATNESS
  3. TELL YOUR STORY
  4. FIND YOUR DRIVE
  5. FIGHT FOR WHAT YOU WANT
  6. UPGRADE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
  7. DON’T DO IT FOR THE MONEY
  8. FIND MENTORS
  9. BE WILLING TO WORK
  10. BE ALIGNED WITH YOUR PURPOSE.

 

 

Here’s today’s the link.

 

And some of my thoughts on Healing, the power of belief, and alternative healing. Enjoy!