Oprah(isms)

What you do have control over is how you re-act to whatever happens in your life.

What we all become is exactly what we believe we can.

My confidence comes from knowing there is something greater than myself that I am a part of and also is a part of me.

How I think one masters one’s life is understanding that you are  co-creating that life with the ultimate Creator. You cannot survive in this world just believing in yourself. You are not big enough to do it.

The fact that you are here, matters.

This is no accident. None of us are…

Every single thing that has happened in your life is preparing you for the moment that is to come.

I should be dead!

 

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Will I die from a broken heart?

I know I’ve caught your attention with my double entendre. But that’s why I wrote it.

What would you do if your doctor gave you six months to live? I’ve heard many answers to this question. Some say, get a second opinion. Well, the second and third and fourth opinions were more depressing than the first!

In 2007 I was experiencing symptoms of heart failure but being the know-it-all that I am, I was self-diagnosing instead of immediately visiting a doctor. I walked around basically having mini-heart attacks without realizing what was happening to me. Women, in general, are neglectful of their health. We tend to be the nurturers and rarely allow ourselves to be nurtured.

For several months I experienced shortness of breath and I decided–after much research on the internet–that I was allergic to sinus medications. Well, in a way I was correct. The “D” in the meds was setting off my already dilated heart. But I had no idea how lucky/unlucky I was. The fact that I lived through that year having mini-heart attacks (layman’s language for your benefit) is its own miracle. And yet, here I am to tell the story.

All this was happening throughout the summer of 2007. In mid-October, I decided to accept an offer to work in Whistler for the winter. After living in Puerto Vallarta full time for several years, I was ready for a change. I packed my red Jeep Liberty and drove by myself from Mexico to Canada. It was amazing. It was exciting, dramatic, stunning and liberating. I did photography and wrote poetry, and stopped at cafes and lived along the sea for two weeks. It was the trip of a lifetime.

Upon the arrival in Whistler, a mountainous region in British Columbia, I was experiencing shortness of breath again. I had a new excuse: I blamed it on the change of altitude!

But all that changed in January of 2008.

I’ve written my memoir of this time, the things I did, and the reasons I believed I had this disease. But, I will tell you one thing. In 2008 the London Cardiomyopathy website online had over 5 million followers. The medical professionals stated emphatically that there was no cure for Idiopathic Dilated Cardiomyopathy. After six months of treatments, my doctors concurred. The specialist told me to get my affairs in order. 

I waited until 2017 to write my story. I was been ‘cured’ completely since 2012. “What if you die,” one friend said. But I wanted to share my story. After all, we will all die eventually. If I’d given into depression and not done the things that made the difference, I wouldn’t be here to write this story. Think of all the experiences I would have missed, the people I have loved, the birth of my grandson, the books I’ve written and the love I’ve received in my life.

No matter what is going on, this memoir will change your life and remind you to never give up and always believe in miracles.

LOVE The Beat Goes On is on sale on Amazon for downloads at $.99 cents. If this is not affordable for you, I understand. Please contact me on FB Msn and I will gladly send you a copy for free.

Thanks for your love and ongoing support of my passion to write stories for you.

 

I miss you…

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March is a month of nostalgia for me.

It’s the birth month of my Mom. She said when her birthday came around she was foreshadowed by mine, two weeks earlier. Don’t you think it’s strange the things we remember?

I recently applied to Ontario, Canada for an original birth certificate. I never had one. I couldn’t remember the exact date of birth of neither of my parents. Weird, right? But I remembered the year and the story I’d told over the years of my ancestry on my mother’s side.

Four Curtin brothers came across from Ireland on a ship and married four Callaghan sisters! Two settled in Western Canada and two in the East–Ontario. What are the chances of that? It’s not a story you’d easily forget.

My mother was a beautiful woman who lived in a time when women stayed home and men went to war. And when some of the men came back, they brought the war zone with them. Unfortunately, I remember too much of that.

She was the one I counted on. She would listen to me and always told me I could do and be anything I wanted in life. She died in 2005. I’ve never returned to the town of my birth in Ontario since then.

I hope she’d be proud of the choices I’ve made. I know she understood when I took my heart from the frozen snow in Canada to the sun-filled days of Puerto Vallarta Mexico.

And I was blessed to feel her leaning over my shoulder as I wrote my memoir LOVE The Beat Goes On, she held my hand, every step of the way.

So today I honor her memory and share it with you.

I never told you enough how much I loved you. I miss you, Mom.

 

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Longing

 

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© Lynda Filler Photography

 

Longing

 

the wind

a delicate caress kissed her skin

she closed her eyes

sighed

overwhelmed with longing

and heard a swallow sing

his purpose

clear

two golden butterflies danced

like lovers

unaware

a storm’s brewing she mused

soon nature’s drops

will mingle with her tears

 

© The Love Fix

 

 

 

A Warrior Woman’s Words of Wisdom

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Image Source: Getty / Gregg DeGuire as posted on PopSugar

LOVE her Wisdom… I needed to hear/read this today. Maybe it’s for you too. I’ll list my favorites and the link to the article is at the bottom.

On Dreams:

“I was never the cool kid, I was never hot in high school. I was never popular. You don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to be rich and you can still be successful.” — V Magazine

On Acceptance:

“I have channeled my feelings of severe hopelessness and depression, I’ve overcome obstacles, and I have found strength in myself even when it felt out of reach. I’ve found what I had thought was an unobtainable place of peace. This song is about coming to feel empathy for someone else even if they hurt you or scare you. It’s a song about learning to be proud of the person you are even during low moments when you feel alone. It’s also about hoping everyone, even someone who hurt you, can heal.” — Lenny Letter (on her new single, “Praying”)

On Determination:

“If anyone tries to tell you that you can’t do what you want to, I think you should give them the finger and do it anyway.” — V Magazine

 

Thanks to PopSugar and Quinn Keaney

https://www.popsugar.com/celebrity/Kesha-Best-Quotes-40400763?stream_view=1#photo-40402846

Why do you do that thing you do?

 

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What’s your Outlook junk mail file look like? Mine is easily 100 unread messages at a time. I really don’t want to delete them, but there’s so little time. I can’t read it all. Everyone has a message and many of them are amazing and heartfelt and helpful…but time…there simply isn’t enough time.

 

Do you multi-task? If you’re a woman, you do for sure! I can’t get my nails done without reading a book, or have lunch without checking and responding to Face Book or Twitter. I cook listening to a podcast or motivational You Tube video. That’s how I roll.

 

I tend to write in sound bites. My blogs are short and sweet and hopefully entertain, inspire or motivate. Or make you smile and laugh, that’s good too. But most of all I respect the time you take to read my post.

 

The point of this is I came across a great free download in one of my emails. It’s from Liz Dennery Sanders called 101 WaysPowerfulBrand. She’s great by the way http://shebrand.com. Liz offers a succinct 20-page workbook to help you organize your brand, to define who and what you are in your marketplace, who and what you want to be to your customer/consumer/client/reader.

 

Here’s what I learned about my Why.  In everyone of my fictional works I tackle a social issue, something important to me—something that touches the core of who we are as a society. I fight my battles—literally, in writing—with the JET series, Target in the Sun, Vanished in the Sun and even in LEI Crime World… The titles like Narco Orphans, JET-Abducted, drop clues.

 

That simple realization about my work was a powerful ah-ha moment. In my own way through my books, I’m tackling war, the sacrifice of the military, human trafficking, cartels, drugs, sex: both good and bad; and with my current wip JET-Displaced, bio-weapons and the world’s refugee crisis.

 

Do you know why you do that thing you do?

 

Thank you to my constant readers. I hope those of you who relate, find both entertainment and your very own ‘ah-hah’ moments in my writing.

 

p. s. Target in the Sun will be on Kindle Countdown Deal Friday June 2, 2017 $.99 cents!! OMG don’t ask me why I’m doing it.  https://goo.gl/PPLaF9