What is one thing I can do to give my life a makeover?

This is a great question I was asked recently on Quora. I thought it would be worthy to share.

I spent most of my life running my own businesses or managing teams of people for other corporations. I can tell one thing about people that challenged me on a daily basis: lack of self-esteem and self love!

I’m assuming this question is coming from a woman—it feels like it; but even that is a sexist remark that shows you how I feel about this subject. People lack self-worth and don’t value their own talents and abilities the way they should.

Maybe my thoughts can help you.

Start a journal and on the first page, write a list of things about yourself that you LOVE. If you have to think about it and can’t come up with 5 things quickly, we have a lot of “making over’ work to do! I’ll give you mine right off the top of my head without any thinking:

I’m funny and make a friend easily. I’m entertaining, charming, and love to tease. I’m sexy—yes, at my age, I got it all going on! I’m an adventurer, in business and in my personal life, a goal setter, a dreamer, a believer in the goodness of mankind, a lover, I lead from the heart. I really like myself.

We are taught, or at least my upbringing taught me to be humble, not to brag, not to flaunt myself or my accomplishments, to be good at things but to not stand out or look for accolades. I say bullshit! If you don’t love yourself, who will? And if you don’t come from a place of love, how can you ever love another?

We come into this world alone, and we go out alone. And sometimes, most of the time, we take this journey called life, by ourselves. You better learn to love who you are, focus on your strengths, and let the other nonsense go. Never, ever put yourself down!

I feel like I could write a book about this, maybe I should! Actually, maybe I will. A lot of my thoughts and principles are in LOVE The Beat Goes On, a memoir. By the way, my books are free to read with Kindle Unlimited membership!

Good luck on this journey we call life. My advice to the hundreds of people I led every day is we only go through this world once. Learn to laugh off the nonsense, and play to your strengths. Learn to love yourself first, and the rest will fall into place.

What 10 things do you wish were invented to make your life better? Q.

 

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  1. I would love to be programmed to be multi-lingual. One day I will walk down the streets of Paris and stop to speak to someone. I will understand everything they say and will be able to respond in their own language. That goes for French, Spanish. Hebrew, Arabic, etc. I want them all installed in my memory bank.
  2. I live in Puerto Vallarta but I’d love to be able to have dinner with my grandson in Paris. I want an eighteen-hour trip reduced to one!
  3. All flying should be business class quality. All planes should be comfortable, serve great food and automatically know my preference for food and drink.
  4. I want to merely think about my groceries and where I want them to come from and they will appear at my door in 15 minutes
  5. I want to view any current event/show/movie in my living room by requesting the event on my internal memory server and sending it onto a wall screen
  6. I would really enjoy having an auto chef. I mean come on. Nora Roberts (JD Robb) designed it years ago for Eve Dallas!
  7. I really need my car to drive automatically. I can’t carry on a conversation and think about where I’m going at the same time. I don’t just want the GPS, I want to program my car and let it go. I’d travel much more if that were the case. I LOVE road trips. And it goes without saying that cars and roads need to be safer so they’re capable of moving vehicles much faster.
  8. I love designer clothes and a certain brand of shoes from Nordstroms. I want to be able to have things purchased from anywhere in the world-Paris, Milan, NYC, and arrive on my doorstep within 24 hours at no extra charge.
  9. Airports: Check in online, arrive, walk to the gate and get on the plane. Body/facial recognition from the moment I arrive at any airport in the world will know I’m free of weapons and safe to go. It should take half an hour tops because I have to stop to get my Starbucks.
  10. My iPhone. Siri should be able to let Starbucks know I’m 100 yards away and here’s my order. My card’s on file so the charge is automatic and a smiling barista has facial recognition and hands me my drink and ground coffee as I walk through the door.

I don’t think I’m asking for too much. All you Quora techies make it happen!