What can older women say to younger women to help them mature faster?

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I can keep it simple or make it complicated. Let’s assume that so many have answered this question already so I will keep it short and sweet.

LEARN to love you, yourself, first. Get rid of your stupid insecurities and focus on your amazing inner beauty. Don’ t let any guy/girl take away your confidence or tell you who you are/should be/should do! The sooner you learn your self-worth, the happier your life will be.

If you don’t believe that love is an inside job, look at the divorce rate. If we knew how to love ourselves, we wouldn’t get into some of the stupid relationships we choose when we’re young. And for some of us, we continue with the age-old definition of insanity: repeating the same action over and over again and expecting a different result.

The more confidence and self-love you have, the more likely you are to choose or be chosen by a man/woman who has the same thing going on. Likes attract.

If you spend your life looking for your soulmate you miss the opportunity to really connect with the soul-mate-that is-you!

I want you to remember these words forever: you should be your first and last love. You are the only one that can truly keep you safe and warm at night. LOVE yourself first.

 

as answered by Lynda Filler on Quora

And pick up a copy of LOVE The Beat Goes On, “When your doctors give you six months do live, what do you do?”  Lynda Filler’s memoir on healing.

 

 

If You WANT IT…

 

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…Just Keep Doing It

I read recently that the reason the majority of people fail at things in life is that they quit too soon. I know this feeling well. I’ve been writing or should I say publishing, for two years now. I published poetry first in earlier years, but novellas, novels, and my memoir have all been in the last two years, going on three. I found myself sighing in frustration a couple of months ago. I LOVE writing and have no challenges coming up with plots. And I would say that in the last year, my writing is so much better, less disjointed, better focused, and seems to require less editing–another good sign.

However, as an Indie Author, so much of success is attached to marketing and marketing is so time-consuming. There were moments when I allowed the thought to enter my mind to stop. Go back to the joy of writing and story-telling, and forget trying to make it a viable income option. Then I laughed at myself. Really? I’m having far too much fun losing myself in my characters and interacting with readers and of course other authors.

Instead, I decided to make charts and become more aware of my wins. So I keep excel spreadsheets and celebrate each increase every month in all areas of publishing. I’ve become better at organizing and allotting time to each task and I use my Gratitude Jar to deposit slips of papers with my successes every day. A big one was learning to use Mail Chimp and navigating through the process of publishing my first News Letter. And don’t laugh, but after over two years playing with my blog, I finally realized where the “link” symbol is!!! I know you’re smiling. But I’m super proud of myself for that!

One of the things that have helped me be successful at everything I’ve attempted to do is self-belief and self-confidence. I listen to videos (yes, listen) while I put my makeup on in the morning, always eager for motivation and knowledge. That’s one of the reasons I like to share Evan Carmichael’s videos from his Believe Nation YouTube channel. Here’s my latest share for you.

Jim Parsons is an American actor, familiar to many but not to me. I don’t watch TV but rather download programs or catch them on Netflix. I found his attitude refreshing and funny. Here’s his top ten.

  1. JUST BE YOU
  2. JUST KEEP DOING IT
  3. FIND YOUR CALLING
  4. DON’T COMPARE YOUR SUCCESS
  5. SEIZE YOUR MOMENT
  6. FIND YOUR CREATIVE PROCESS
  7. JUST SAY YES!!
  8. GET CONFIDENCE FROM HARD WORK
  9. LOVE STORYTELLING
  10. HAVE FUN

 

Find the interviews here:  https://youtu.be/8_e-m0I288c

If you want it, just keep doing it!

Have a creative week!

 

A slice of my life can be found on Amazon in my memoir LOVE The Beat Goes On.