Oprah(isms)

What you do have control over is how you re-act to whatever happens in your life.

What we all become is exactly what we believe we can.

My confidence comes from knowing there is something greater than myself that I am a part of and also is a part of me.

How I think one masters one’s life is understanding that you are  co-creating that life with the ultimate Creator. You cannot survive in this world just believing in yourself. You are not big enough to do it.

The fact that you are here, matters.

This is no accident. None of us are…

Every single thing that has happened in your life is preparing you for the moment that is to come.

“Really important meetings are planned by the souls…”

“Really important meetings are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other.” Paulo Coehlo, Eleven Minutes

 

It’s not that I disagree with Coehlo, but, must I follow every ‘chance meeting’ that was never meant to be the one? The angst, the passion, the sadness that goes with “really important meetings,” is it really worth it?

Why do I dream? Why do I allow my heart to rule all things in my life? Will I, can I ever change?

There are two things that my heart requires in order to survive, breath and love. Unfortunately, I almost died from the one and I just can’t seem to get the second one right.

Unfortunately, Coehlo understands me too well, I’m a dreamer, a believer, a lover, a fatalist, and an incurable romantic.

I’ve been in denial for so many years. I scoffed at love, took chances, made ridiculous choices. Made decisions that sane people, curable romantics, would never make. I left my mind back there somewhere in 4th grade, and hitched my heart to my soul and let my love take the lead in all things in my life.

Am I a fool for love? Oh yeah.

But for once in my life, if there is such a thing as God, could you please let me love someone who will love me back?

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Drop Drop Drop!

 

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I #LOVE this!!

Sam Bennett dropped this into my email box this week and I wanted to share. If it resonates, make it your own. And you can follow Sam at the link below.

https://theorganizedartistcompany.com

The Organized Artist Company | The Organized Entrepreneur Company
Carpinteria, California 93013
United States

Hi Lynda,

drop drop drop
drop what you have been holding
drop what you have been holding
drop the idea that you are confused
drop the idea that you are broke
drop the idea that there is any part of you that is unlovable or unnecessary
drop it
set it down
set your burden down
set down your grief
set down your aloneness
set down your your stubbornness
sit down on the side of the road
set your bundles down next to you like cats just sit there
don’t do
don’t rush
don’t have a thought
feel your heartbeat
feel the breath go in and out of you
feel how you are supported in this very moment
there is nothing you need that you don’t have in this very moment
there is nothing that is not possible for you
don’t do
don’t rush
stop thinking
be…
be on the side of the road
set your burdens down
maybe there’s some more that have popped up
take them off of you
you can pick them back up later
just set them down for now
set down your identity
set down your desire to be liked
set down the frantic need to be approved of
set down the idea that there is any lack or absence or shortage of anything anywhere

feel your heart beat feel your breath
feel the air on your skin
feel gravity
become aware again of the net
feel yourself as part an inextricable and critical part of this whole
stop fighting
we love you and you’re doing great
let your hands be loose
stay don’t wander
stay don’t rush to answers
stay in this moment
stay in not knowing
feel the forgiveness for not knowing
it’s like a rain comes down and washes the dust off of you
you are warm and safe
you are needed and loved
you are perfect whole and complete
there is nothing wrong with you
and your ego will fight that
do you see it throwing its little tantrum
you say “I love you ego, you are loved and you’re doing great”
so together we gather in this circle
sitting down by the side of the road
with our burdens and our stories and our excuses
the same 57 negative thoughts
that we have been thinking since we were twelve
we have set aside for now

you seek transformation
you are in the place of transformation
you seek a new life
you are in the place of a new life
you can relax
you’ve made it
congratulations you found it
you can stay like this
this is the real world
this is the real world

©2018

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The above is a partial transcript of the spiritual improvisation I did on Sat. —

Spirit.Marketing.Business.Money.Creativity.Love.
A spiritual improvisation and free teaching with bestselling author Sam Bennett.

—-> go here to enjoy it: https://youtu.be/h6tkqxGruw0

Feel free to share it with whomever you like.

We go deep: this is not for sissies.

And yes, I cried.

Let me know how all this lands for you, OK?

Yours,

Sam.

By The Way, You Look Really Great Today

 

How do you love?

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Let me count the ways.

sunrises and sunsets, baby smiles and baby breath, beaches and mountains, lovers, arguments and making up, flowers on my patio, orchids on my desk, a family who remind me I’m loved, children who taught me, unconditional love,

living with dying …. friends who sit with me in silence who understand when my love pain is too much, people who hurt me for my own good, people who believe in me when I can’t quite find the courage to believe in myself,

a friend who came in from the cold, friends who’ve passed on but send me ravens to guide me, Sedona and Akal, second chances to live the life I was meant to live, RB and the world he kindled, fans and friends who follow my work, those who came before me who have taught me so much, words that flow through me, stories I create, a memoir that heals hearts, a chance to share what burns inside my soul,

Mia and Carlos, an unconventional love only they can understand, protectors and warriors who’ve inspired everything I’ve ever written, Luke, Israel, Zach and David strong, powerful and soulful heroes, Lucia, Lorena, Sofia, Jet and now Rasha, and Layla women who humble us with their determination to get it right, and all those authors that came before me, their books, their gift they share with the world,

and most of all I love the Higher Power that has guided me throughout my life, pulled me back from danger, inspired me to follow my dreams and my heart, and saved me from myself more than once, and given me second chances,

and I love how I receive occasional glimpses of the lives I’ve lived before, and I love how I know that when I die this will not be the end but the beginning, that in each life I learn to love more, deeper and wider,

and my soul speaks through me and sends messages to the world, and I am blessed to still find wonder in everything that life gives me, and most of all my heart is filled with love for all with whom my soul mates.

 

 

 

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What’s the most important thing you’re working on right now, and how are you making it happen? Q

 

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I’m working on two projects. The first is a manuscript, working title: SEX for MONEY—Rent-a-boys in Mexico. I wrote this story a few years ago and put it aside. I’m editing now and being brutal on my edits.

A freelance writer moves to Puerto Vallarta to pursue her curiosity about the male sex trade—what type of men sell themselves and why women pay for it. Through a series of interviews and sexual experiences, she finds herself on a dark journey into her own beliefs on sexuality and love.

It’s deeply personal and highly sexual. It’s a different write for me but in the editing, I’ve come across sections that take my breath away.

If I’m ever discouraged about the long road to success in writing books, I go to Amazon and read my reviews. After all, it’s about the pleasure my readers get when they read, right?

The second project is a series of shorter books on Women: sexuality after 50, successful living, creativity and spiritual/soul development. I love these non-fiction subjects that I touched upon in my extremely well-received Memoir/Self-help book LOVE The Beat Goes On. I wanted to delve deeper in the hopes that women know they are not alone in their journey of self-development. We are all in this together.

Yes, I’m busy and at times question myself, my work and the direction life is taking me. We all have self-doubts but the key to success for me is

  1. making a plan—Schedule the writing/editing/cover etc.
  2. doing the work—reading & deleting my rambling babies
  3. writing one page after another even when I’d rather watch Netflix
  4. keeping myself motivated by listening to other authors, their challenges and how they kept on doing the work rejection after rejection
  5. keep my eye on the vision board
  6. and never, ever giving up

What are the top five best decisions you ever made?

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  1. To leave my verbally abusive husband in 2002.
  2. To move to Mexico, find my soul and learn “I am enough.
  3. To start publishing in 2009: the musings of my heart. And the wacky creative stories that allow me to entertain thousands of people. Amazon.com: Lynda Filler: Books, Biography, Blog, Audiobooks, Kindle
  4. To put myself out there this year with my personal story of healing when I was given 6 months to live in 2008 LOVE The Beat Goes On.
  5. To answer an ad on a dating website placed by a 17 year old girl for her father. And making the decision to continue to love him even though he lives in a hospital and is considered terminal.